Fear And Dread – Or, as I call it, “Moist Panties”
by Mature Woman
Would you call me crazy if I told you that a key component to making any relationship in your life last is a slight sense of dread and the presence of fear?
Its true! Any experienced player will tell you that dread is an important part of seduction and maintaining a relationship. I recently gave a quick overview in the comments of Loveawake's blog and everyone jumped at the chance to tell me I was wrong. Unfortunately for them, I wasn’t wrong. I think a lot of people misunderstood exactly what I was driving at (someone told me it was an ‘immature high school move’ – seeming to forget that girls of all ages love childish teasing). You see, regardless of what a woman may think of a man and his chances with the opposite sex, nothing changes the fact that if he begins acting suspicious, mysterious, and keeps to himself, she will – by her nature - assume that there is another woman in the picture.
Falsely believing she has some kind of right or claim on the man, if the new woman is even moderately attractive, the soon-to-be ex will begin to get jealous and start attempting to lay claim on the man. Its preselection at its best. When a woman see’s a man with other women, she has to assume that he has something valuable. If he wasn’t worth mating with, why would all these women want to mate with him? A lot of times you can see this concept play out in your own life (regardless of gender) when all of your friends and family begin using the same type of, lets say, shoes. They all talk about how great these shoes are and how wonderful it feels when you jog in them – you start to wonder, maybe there is something behind the hype and you should go out and grab you a pair. That is preselection.
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Women will do the same thing, but on a subconscious and instinctive level. You have to understand this. If you’re a man, you might not believe it, and if you’re a woman you will deny it – but its the truth inside of our biological programming. In order to produce survivable offspring, a woman must mate with the most valuable male accessible to her. If all of the other women are fighting for a man, he must be worth mating with so maybe I should get in the fray and fight for him as well.
Tack on to that the very real possibility of losing you, and you have a woman who is willing to do anything for you. You see, now that she has a valuable male, she needs to keep the valuable male. He needs to provide her with children and then provide for her children. In Game, the greatest thing you can learn is how to use this programming for your advantage. A cheap and dirty way to do this is fear of losing you. The key here being that you can never explicitly say you’re going to leave her if she doesn’t do X, Y and Z. That would be childish – as Athol’s readers suggest.
However, The Hamster is a powerful force and can do many a great thing – turn 15 years of a decent marriage into hell when remembered, convince a woman that the one-night stand she just had was beneficial, or get her to believe that she truly will be happier with this sackless beta than she would be with a man who takes charge and control of the house.
You can only make fear and dread work for you by manipulating her hamster into doing all the leg work. I will show you later in this post the things you do to get her hamster to start spinning, but for now I want you to understand the concept behind it so that you can develop your own techniques and ideas.
If she’s scared she’ll lose you, she will start to do things for you in order to keep you happy – this is so you’ll stay around longer. I’ve had women clean my bathroom when they come over (they’ve also separated and started my laundry, done dishes, fixed me food, etc.). I have never once asked for them to do these things, and if you asked them why they do them, they’re likely to tell you that it’s because they “enjoy my company” or “want to make me happy” – whatever. The truth behind the hamster’s lies is that the girl wants to keep you around to have your babies.
It works so effectively because I’ve never once told a girl I’d leave her if she failed to do X, Y or Z. I’ve never said that she would lose me to any other woman. But she knows that it’s possible to lose me, and without any notice. She knows I have options, and she knows I can make options. I’ve never said any of this to her, but her hamster has. At this point, a girl is likely to have seen me in public, in bars, watched random people buy me drinks, noticed waitresses flirting with me (and my careless flirting back), seen women get uncomfortably handsy with me – She’s noticed these things and her little hamster has run wild. Though I really couldn’t give less of a shit about these women (don’t ever put it on a pedestal), she will view them as her competition. This is the power behind Fear & Dread.
Things You Can Do
I’m assuming we all understand, now, how this fear and dread thing works and what it does to work towards preselection and building attraction. Now lets look at some subtle ways to trigger this effect in your life! It is at this point that you have to be a good actor. If you can’t lie to someone’s face, you probably wont be able to pull this off (Dark Game FTW?). For practice, try looking your mom in the eyes and telling her you’re a virgin (or, for some of you, your brother and that you get laid occasionally).
This is going to sound weird, but the trick with this is being completely not subtle at all about trying to be completely subtle. To help us understand this, lets look at a simple example:
your phone
I’m assuming that you’re a fucking idiot and your girlfriend/Wife/Regular Thursday Night Transvestite Hooker From 5th & Greenville knows the lock code/pattern/whatever on your phone. If she knows the lock code on your phone you can be sure that she scrolls through your texts when you’re in the shower. Don’t blame her, blame Sex In The City.
What I want you to do is randomly change the lock on your phone, and then be obvious about not leaving it with her. The real act of this, though, is acting as though you’re trying not to act any certain way. Make sure she notices that your lock is different (unlock it in front of her), but don’t give her a chance to learn the new lock code. Set it down on the table between you, walk away, and then run back in and grab it up quickly as if you didn’t want to risk her going through it. When questioned about why you’re being weird with your phone, deflect. The key is try and act like a guy who is trying not to be suspicious – be bad about being inconspicuous. She will immediately think, “Oh, there is something on his phone that he doesn’t want me to see. DIRTY TEXTS WITH THE WOMAN HE’S CHEATING ON ME WITH!” - but she’ll never have any proof. Of anything. And because women are passive-aggressive, she will likely not openly confront you about it for a while.
Keeping up this ruse for too long will drive her away, so be a little passive about it yourself and only act weird about it sometimes. There are other things you can do, as well. If you’re married and have a joint bank account, pull out a noticeable sum of cash (that your budget allows) and simply don’t talk about it. If you want, invest the money somewhere, put it in an IRA, or buy her jewelry for your anniversary – but don’t tell her why you pulled the money out or where it went. If she asks about the money, change the subject or say “I needed it for something.” and leave it at that. Women can’t resist a good dose of drama, and your job is to fabricate that drama and intrigue.
Passively remark about needing another house key made, don’t tell her why. Stay an hour or two late at work, go out with the guys for drinks, disappear on a random Saturday morning, and be vague and mysterious in all of your reasoning. One of the greatest things you can do to add spice to your relationship is to add a bit more mystery to it. Now, if you’re married, keep in mind that this is powerful and should be done very sparingly and only when her interest in you is starting to fall off. A good judge of that is sex: How much are you having? Twice or three times a month – try vanishing for a few hours on a saturday morning without explanation. Also, if you’re married or committed to your woman, don’t actually cheat on her. The goal is to just get her a little suspicious about your comings and goings. It adds drama and intrigue to your relationship, which will trigger her preselection and make her fuck your brains out.
I promise.
And for your own edification, yes I do date occasionally, and yes I have done this shit to my girlfriends. I actually pick a few days out of the month just to not talk to them. I don’t answer their calls, I don’t text them back, I just straight ignore them. Trust me, I wont steer you wrong.
